I am sure you can relate this word with most of your relatives, if not…lucky you!!!
I have lots of them…which when needed turn their back but are all in when not required. The most irritating thing is that they ‘occur’ without notification. Hence, we lose on the opportunity of making excuses to avoid such dangerous confrontations. Every meeting turns out to be fake, right from ‘welcome’ till ‘see you again’. Hell!!! No…I don’t want to see them again. Family get-togethers are enough of meetings…more than that is overdose.
I do have few relatives that we long to meet; they are the ones who over the period of time have proved to be the genuine ones. We often call them for dinner (so it’s a planned meeting) or they often come over for a cup of coffee (hence, there is no overdose).
These fake encounters are always surrounded by the probability of arguments. If by chance any of the parties portrays their discontentment towards any behavior of the opposite party in the past, the series of justifications and pin-pointing each other for past instances kicks off with no end to it. More-over, it doesn’t matter how much you treat these relatives with, there would always be something or the other they would find out to pass comments on within the circle of relatives… which of course you would get to know later. Hence, the vicious circle would go on and on.
This makes me wonder more about relationships. Why are they so complicated? Why is it that even after trying our best, we still miss out on a lot of things as per them?